By Coach Huber | September 22, 2015
I was watching Hard Knocks on HBO last week. The show chronicled the Houston Texans as they prepared for the current NFL season. The head coach of the Texans is Bill O’Brien. He has a 13 year old son, Jack, who suffers from a rare neurological disorder that prevents him from walking, talking, and being able to feed himself. He has up to 10 seizures a day. It was hard to have a dry eye hearing his story and all he has gone through. And yet he is incredibly happy. He was shown interacting with his parents with a smile on his face. His parents said that is typical of his demeanor.
As I have reflected on that, it just reinforces how much of our world is determined by our attitude. It is so easy to fall into a trap of focusing on the negative and everything that is going wrong in our lives. Everyone has adversity. However, most of us don’t have adversity like Jack O’Brien. If he can go through is day focused on all the good things going on around him, I ought to be able to do the same.
One of the people I follow on Twitter is named Sam Allen, and he is a basketball coach in Atlanta. Every day he tweets this tweet with today’s date:
“Great day to 2b Alive! U only get 1 chance to do Sept 21, 2015. Might as well go LIVE it, enjoy it & make a positive impact on ppl around U”
It is so simple but so true. I love the saying about making the most of today because it’s the oldest we’ve ever been and the youngest we will ever be! No matter what we do tomorrow it can’t make up for a wasted today. Every day we have a chance to make a difference if we have a positive attitude and live in the moment. We can’t change the past and we can’t control the future. All we can do is make the best of what’s going on right now. (We constantly talk about this idea with our players of ‘playing present’ during the game of basketball).
I recently read an interesting way to reframe our daily tasks. . . the idea is this – every time you are going to say “I have to. . .” change it to “I get to. . .” so instead of “I have to go to work” or “I have to run errands” rephrase it as “I get to go to work” or “I get to run errands”. This simple change in the sentence can be very powerful. It helps us remember that we are fortunate to get to do the things that many people (like Jack O’Brien) would give anything to do.
One other idea in this regard is the “No Complaining Rule” based on Jon Gordon’s book of the same title. The idea is that you are not allowed to complain unless you offer a solution to the problem you are complaining about. The lesson is that it’s okay to have those feelings, but it’s counterproductive to wallow in them and not work to change them. We are going to try this idea with our team this year.
I have a lot of work to do with the topics in this blog. However, seeing someone like Jack O’Brien provides me motivation to be a better person and maximize every day I am lucky enough to have. And for that
I am thankful!